Meghan Tonjes on #FatShamingWeek.
Hey, guys. Like a lot of you, I have had my fair share of uneducated, distasteful individuals approach me and say things that are unkind and arrogant just because I’m fat. And yes, thankfully, when these clowns attempt to lay it on thick, I have essentially heard it all thereby making me almost impervious to their brand of finding self-worth.
However, sometimes I see something so ridiculously hateful and disgusting that it makes me sick to the very fiber of my being. #FatShamingWeek this past week was one of those things. It’s hard enough that people - especially young people - have to have their personal worth challenged every day by people who try to weaken them and bully them into believing that they must meet a societal standard to be worthy of anyone’s time, patience, and love.
I know I’ve talked about Meghan on my personal blog before and how brilliant her videos are. This video is no exception and should be a must watch for everyone because it’s so blunt, so honest, and it comes from a place so pure and genuine because - SPOILER - this is not a laughing matter.
And what can we do to respond? I say take back the tag on Twitter. Use the hashtag and turn it on its head. Take the power away from people who are using it to spread ill will and half-hearted antipathy.
And, as always, keep it classy.
Melissa McCarthy, Rex Reed, and Fat Shaming is Absolutely Not Okay.
This video isn’t part of the CGS YouTube channel - it’s from my personal vlog - but I think the message is pretty universal. Hollywood has some pretty distorted views about bodies and sometimes this silly obsession with the “ideal” becomes so absurd that someone in the biz oversteps their boundaries.
Watch as I analyze the most recent misstep in the film industry and try to make sense of it all.
Keep it classy!
Thank you to everyone who has been getting the word out on the petition. I noticed a lot of people have been simply ‘liking’ it though, signing it is what’s going to make it a reality! It takes less than a minute. Every signature brings us closer to our goal.
We just recieved this in our submit box:
"I’m setting up a plus sized vintage shop for both guys and girls! I’m a qualified photographer, so the shots could look fandabidozy! I have a portfolio upon request, so if you fancy giving it a go-no previous experience necessary-please get in touch on my blog here: http://may-is-the-way.tumblr.com
Photos by Lee Roberts http://www.cleverprime.com/
The women’s fashion industry changed because we spoke up. We demanded a change. We refused to wear shapeless frumpy clothing. It was an insult. It was as if the designers and clothing companies, by not making things in our size, were saying we weren’t good enough to represent their best work. I know you are familiar with this feeling, because that is exactly what is happening to you right now. There is however, far too much commiserating and trying to just deal with what is being handed to you.
I am encouraging men to stand up for themselves. You cannot just complain that there is nothing out there for you, and then continue to do the bare minimum of work to change it. All it takes is some diligent emailing, some letters, and petitions. No one is going to fight your battles for you. I can help, but I’m not a majority of the demographic. Sure we women can argue that we’d like to buy our boyfriends or husbands a certain type of style, but if the men aren’t backing us up by saying ’ yes that’s what we want’, then nothing is going to change.
When was the last time you contacted a clothing company asking for clothing in your size? When was the last time you contacted a clothing company and asked why they don’t have plus size male models to display their plus size male clothing? Or why their plus size clothing isn’t available in stores? When was the last time you started a petition for these things? I’m not trying to come of as if I’m scolding anyone, just trying to open your eyes a little more. Encourage you all to be more fierce in standing up for yourselves.
Many in the fashion industry have said themselves that ‘there is no demand’ and that, ‘if there was a demand then things would change’. So start demanding! Do you want to just ‘settle’? Don’t you guys think you deserve to be comfortable and easily express yourselves in a fashionable way? I do. I’m backing you up 100%, I want to see 100% coming from you guys in the fight for a change in the industry.
Gwen DeVoe, the creator of full-figured Fashion Week in New York and former plus-size model herself, thinks a plus-size men’s fashion industry – or at least a bigger big-and-tall market – has a chance. But right now, “there’s nothing to model,” she says. “Someone has to create the industry.”
Shapewear has been around for ages but is it time to officially consider it an outdated idea? Does shapewear play into society’s psychologically damaging quest for the fabricated image of ‘perfection’ that we try so hard to exploit? By wearing it are we lying to ourselves, or playing into what we think other people want from us? Or is it simply harmless? What do you think?